What To Wear To An Indian Wedding As A Non Indian Guest

Are you wondering how to dress for an Indian wedding as a non-Indian guest? I can personally testify to the struggle of this question.

I’m American and when I first attended an Indian wedding in Bangalore on my first trip to the country in 2017 I definitely didn’t dress properly and felt embarrassed. Then I improved a couple years later when I attended my now husband’s cousin’s wedding in Goa. I had my husband and his friend take me shopping in Mumbai ahead of the wedding to give me outfit guidance.

Coming full circle, I had my very own Indian wedding in 2024 where I was decked out in a bridal lehenga, dupatta, mehndi, maang tikka, bangles, and kalire.

Given that we invited guests from all over the world (including lots of Americans and Europeans), to our wedding in Slovenia, we provided them with below guidance. Everyone was excited to get decked out in traditional wear; dressing up is a part of the fun!

I recommend attending an Indian wedding as a top experience in India, so if you ever get an invite from a friend or family member – you should book the trip and go! Or if you have no prospects of an invitation, believe it or not, you can buy tickets to Indian weddings!

What To Wear To An Indian Wedding

As a non-Indian, it can be tricky when you aren’t familiar with the traditional Indian wear. It is important to note that wedding wear differs based on whether you’re attending a North Indian, South Indian or East Indian wedding. Generally, for women, Sarees are preferred for East, South Indian weddings and Lehengas or Salwar Kameez for North Indian weddings.

I’ve included the most common options broken down in a bit more detail.

What To Wear To An Indian Wedding For Women

Indian wedding attire for women is usually colorful and detailed, featuring flowing fabrics, embroidery, and embellishments. Here are the main options:

Lehenga

A lehenga is a two-piece outfit with a long skirt (lehenga) and a matching or contrasting blouse (choli), often accompanied by a dupatta (fabric for draping). 

This outfit is popular for Indian weddings. Lehengas can range from simple designs to heavily embroidered pieces with intricate beadwork and embellishments.

They come in any color of the rainbow. You can opt for a lehenga in rich colors such as maroon, pink, or gold for a classic look. Pair it with statement jewelry like jhumkas (traditional earrings) and bangles. You can drape the dupatta over your shoulder or across your chest for a traditional look.

Salwar Kameez

A salwar kameez is a more comfortable option, consisting of a long tunic (kameez), loose-fitting pants (salwar), and a dupatta. Salwar kameez outfits come in many styles, from simple cotton designs to heavily embroidered silk versions. This outfit offers ease of movement, making it ideal for longer events.

Anarkali Suit is a style within salwar kameez. It is a long, frock-style top paired with slim bottoms. It’s easy to move around in.

Sharara

A sharara consists of a long, flowing pair of trousers that flare out dramatically from the knee. It is often paired with a long tunic or kurta and a dupatta.

Saree

A popular choice, sarees are a long piece of fabric that is draped around the body with a blouse-like top underneath the draping. They’re available in many colors, fabrics, and designs.

Draping a saree is a skill and something to consider. The morning of the first Indian wedding I ever attended, a couple friends and I really struggled to wrap our sarees. We tried several YouTube instructional videos. The bride kindly sent someone to our hotel to assist us and it turns out, we had un-stitched sarees (essentially just fabric) that needed to be cut so a blouse could be sewn from the fabric. It was quite stressful at the time but now we look back at it and laugh at ourselves.

What To Wear To An Indian Wedding For Men

Indian wedding attire for men can be both traditional and comfortable, with options that allow for color, embroidery, and patterned fabrics. Here are the main styles to consider:

Jodhpuri suit

A Jodhpuri suit is a modern Indian man’s favorite wedding attire. It is a fitted, high-collared jacket that can be paired with flowing or fitted pants . This formal suit is a blend of Indian and western style and is considered a modern and fashionable outfit which can be paired with Indian dress shoes (juttis), brogues or any western dress shoes.

Kurta-Pyjama

A more relaxed yet traditional option, consisting of a long shirt (kurta) and a pair of light, comfortable trousers (pyjama). You usually pair this with a Nehru Jacket, which is a dressy version of a waist coat, made popular by India’s first Prime Minister, Jawaharlal Nehru. To accessorize further, you add a festive stoll (long scarf).

Kurta-Dhoti

A kurta paired with a long piece of cloth that is tied around the waist and the legs, as a lower. A dhoti is a popular choice at South and East Indian weddings. You can buy pre-tied readymade Dhotis to avoid the intricate dhoti tying.

Sherwani

A sherwani is a longer, coat-like garment that’s more formal and often reserved for the main wedding ceremony or reception. Sherwanis are usually made of heavier fabrics like silk or brocade and may feature elaborate embroidery, beadwork, or patterns. They’re typically paired with churidar (fitted) pants or dhoti-style bottoms.

This is what my husband wore at our wedding. It’s a common style for grooms.

Opt for a sherwani in classic colors like cream, gold, or navy blue. Adding a matching turban (safa) and a stole (a type of scarf) enhances the formal look. This attire is best suited for the wedding ceremony or reception.

Bandgala

A bandgala or ‘closed neck suit’ is a mix of Indian-Western styles comprising of a buttoned-up suit jacket all the way up to the collar. It is usually paired with dress shoes and a pocket square.

Turbans

Turbans play a significant role in many Indian wedding ceremonies, especially in North Indian traditions. They are often worn by the groom, his male family members, and close friends during significant rituals like the baraat (wedding procession) or the milni (greeting ceremony).

As a non-Indian guest, you may not be expected to wear a turban unless specifically invited to do so, but if offered one, it’s a gesture of inclusion and respect to accept. Turbans are usually provided by the host family and tied professionally on the day of the event, so you don’t need to worry about bringing or styling your own.

At my wedding, Anmol’s family was used to wearing to wearing turbans during ceremonies but it was my family’s first time. My brothers and my dad all wore them for the ceremony and we even invited some of my American friends to wear them as well.

Indian Wedding Accessories

If you’re attending an Indian wedding, accessorizing with some classic Indian pieces will help you embrace the culture and elevate your look. Here’s a breakdown of some of the main types of jewelry and accessories commonly worn at Indian weddings, along with tips on how to wear them.

Maang Tikka (Forehead Ornament)

The maang tikka is a statement piece worn on the forehead. It typically has a chain that hooks into the hair at the parting and a decorative pendant or charm that rests on the center/top of the forehead. Maang tikkas come in various styles, from simple and elegant to elaborate. It pairs especially well with hairstyles that have a center parting.

How to wear it: If you’re new to this accessory, go for a small and simple design to avoid it feeling too heavy or unfamiliar. Position it on your forehead, aligning it with your center hair part, and secure it with a bobby pin or cross two bobby pins if you’re having trouble getting it to stay.

Jhumkas or Chandbalis (Earrings)

Jhumkas are traditional Indian earrings shaped like bell domes, often embellished with intricate designs, pearls, and beads. Another popular style is chandbalis, crescent-shaped earrings that often feature delicate filigree and gemstone work. These earrings are usually large and eye-catching, designed to add a bold statement to the outfit. Familiarize yourself with this popular Jhumka song that has been a hit at Indian weddings for decades.

How to wear it: For simpler outfits or low necklines, you can go for larger, more elaborate designs to help give an extra touch to your outfit. On the flip side, if your outfit is complex you can pick smaller earrings.

Nath (Nose Ring)

The nath is a traditional Indian nose ring, often worn by brides to signify cultural heritage. It can be as small and delicate as a stud, or as large as a hoop, sometimes connected to the hair with a thin chain. While not common for guests, it’s a unique accessory if you want to fully embrace traditional bridal-style Indian jewelry.

How to wear it: If you have a pierced nose, you can opt for a simple stud nath, which is easier to wear and style. For those without a piercing, clip-on or magnetic versions are available for a touch of cultural flair without commitment.

Choker Necklace and Long Necklace

Indian weddings often involve wearing layered necklaces. A choker, which sits tightly around the neck, is often paired with a rani haar (long necklace) that hangs lower. Chokers are typically ornate, featuring gemstones, pearls, or kundan (a traditional type of Indian jewelry setting). Wearing multiple necklaces adds depth and luxury to the overall look, reflecting the opulence associated with Indian celebrations.

How to wear it: Choose a choker that complements the neckline of your outfit. For a deep neckline, you can layer a choker with a long necklace to create a dramatic effect. If your outfit already has a high neckline, one statement necklace will do the trick.

Bangles and Kadas (Bracelets)

Bangles and kadas (thicker bracelets) are essential accessories in Indian fashion, especially for weddings. They come in a variety of materials, including gold, glass, and lac (resin), and are often stacked in large numbers for a colorful, jingling effect. Bangles can be mixed and matched according to the colors of your outfit.

How to wear them: For a formal wedding, gold or gemstone-studded bangles are ideal. If your outfit is richly colored, you can also add glass bangles in complementary shades for a vibrant look. Wearing bangles on both wrists is traditional, but you can choose fewer pieces if you want.

Kamarband

A kamarband is a belt-like accessory traditionally worn around the waist. For Indian weddings, kamarbands are often ornate, featuring intricate designs adorned with pearls, beads, or gemstones. They complement sarees, lehengas, and even anarkalis, making the ensemble look regal and polished.

As a guest, wearing a kamarband can elevate your outfit and help you embrace traditional Indian fashion. However, I will note I personally have not worn one or seen one worn at the handful of Indian weddings I have attended, so I think it depends very much on personal style.

Payal (Anklets)

Payal, or anklets, are a subtle yet fun accessory that can add a touch of tradition and charm to your Indian wedding outfit, especially when paired with lehengas or sarees that showcase your feet. They’re often silver or gold and adorned with delicate chains, beads, or small jingling bells. Keep in mind you should pick a lightweight design that’s comfortable as you move and dance.

Indian Wedding Attire FAQs

Answering some more questions you might have as you plan for what to wear at an Indian wedding as a non-Indian guest.

Is it appropriate for non-Indian guests to wear traditional Indian clothing?

Yes! Most Indian families appreciate when guests embrace their culture through clothing. Consider hiring or purchasing traditional attire – many Indian boutiques offer rental services.

Is there a color you shouldn’t wear to an Indian wedding?

Traditionally red is reserved for the bride. However, this is not always the case as trends have changed in modern times. I would definitely recommend checking with the bride before wearing red at an Indian wedding.

Check with the bride and groom, as color preferences can vary by region and family. Some events might have color themes. Generally, vibrant colors are encouraged, but avoid wearing the same color as the bride at any event.

Is there a difference between South Indian, North Indian and East Indian weddings?

India is a large country with infinite diversity and wedding customs change every few hundred miles. Generally though, Southern and Eastern weddings are simpler affairs while northern weddings can be flashier with brighter colors. Pastels and light colors work really well at Southern weddings while Northern weddings often embrace reds and greens.

Can you wear black to an Indian wedding as a guest?

Yes you can wear black to an Indian wedding. However, Indians consider bright and colorful outfits to be more festive and celebratory. I’d recommend wearing color to an Indian wedding.

How much jewelry is too much?

Indian weddings are the perfect occasion for statement jewelry. Layer necklaces, wear bangles, and don’t shy away from dramatic earrings. However, avoid wearing family heirloom-style pieces that might compete with the bride’s jewelry.

Do I need different outfits for each event?

Yes, ideally. Each event has its own atmosphere and dress code. However, you can mix and match pieces or accessories to create different looks if needed.

Can I wear Western formal wear?

Generally yes, but consider incorporating Indian elements through accessories, embroidered shawls, or choosing pieces with Indian-inspired designs and embellishments.

What type of shoes should I wear?

Choose comfortable yet elegant shoes. You may need to remove them during religious ceremonies, so avoid complicated laces. For women, medium-height heels or embellished flats work well.

What To Wear To Indian Wedding Events

Depending on the religion, family customs, and regional traditions, there may be different events leading up to and after the wedding ceremony. Here are some common events and dress code tips to help you decide what to wear.

Sangeet

The Sangeet is a joyous, high-energy pre-wedding celebration that literally translates to “music”. It’s essentially an informal mixer music and dance party where both families come together to get to know each other and kick off the wedding celebrations. Family members and friends usually perform choreographed dance numbers, share music, and create an atmosphere of joyous celebration and excitement.

What to Wear to a Sangeet:

Style: Festive and colorful, but not as formal as the wedding ceremony

Women:
Lehenga (a long, flared skirt with a matching top)
Palazzo suits
Anarkali suits
Vibrant, embroidered Indian fusion wear

Men:
Kurta pajama
Indo-western outfits
Colorful, embellished jackets

Color Palette: Bright, jewel-tone colors like royal blue, emerald green, magenta, or rich orange

Avoid: Overly formal or plain attire

Accessories: Statement jewelry, bangles, and comfortable dancing shoes

Mehndi

The Mehndi ceremony is a deeply traditional pre-wedding ritual where intricate henna (called “mehndi”) designs are applied to the bride’s hands and feet. It’s typically a women-centered event filled with music, dancing, and female bonding. The elaborate henna designs are considered auspicious and are believed to bring good luck and strengthen the marriage bond.

What to wear to a Mehndi ceremony:

The goal here is to be a bit more comfortable for this ceremony as the vibe will be be fun and festive. Wear something with sleeves and necklines that are easy to roll up or move around in for henna application. Often times the color palette of the event includes: predominantly greens, yellows, and other light, cheerful colors.

For Women:
Light, flowy suits
Comfortable kurtas
Palazzo sets
Casual but colorful Indian wear
Opt for breathable materials like cotton or light silk

For Men:
Light kurtas
Comfortable ethnic wear

Avoid: Dark colors or heavily structured clothing

Haldi

The Haldi ceremony is a purification and blessing ritual where turmeric paste is applied to the bride’s or groom’s skin. Turmeric is considered auspicious and is believed to bring good luck, ward off evil spirits, and give the couple’s skin a beautiful glow before the wedding. It’s an intimate, joyful ceremony typically attended by close family and friends.

What to Wear to a Haldi ceremony

The style for the Haldi is very casual and practical. The turmeric paste will stain, so choose clothing you’re okay with potentially ruining. Expect to get messy – this is a playful, fun ceremony.

Women and Men:
Old, light-colored clothes you don’t mind getting stained
Something lightweight and easy to move in
Comfortable, loose-fitting clothing
White or pale yellow are traditional colors associated with the ceremony, but not necessary

Avoid: New, expensive, or dark-colored clothing

General Tips For Western Guests

✅ Always ask the couple or family if you’re unsure about appropriate attire.

✅ When in doubt, opt for colorful, modest clothing.

✅ Bring a change of clothes for messy ceremonies like Haldi.

✅ Embrace the opportunity to wear traditional Indian clothing.

✅ Comfort and respect for the traditions are key.

✅ Consider the weather and venue when choosing fabrics.

✅ Bring a shoulder cover for religious ceremonies

✅ Pack safety pins and fashion tape for traditional outfits

✅ Choose comfortable footwear – Indian weddings involve lots of standing and dancing

What NOT To Wear At An Indian Wedding

Understanding what to avoid is just as important as knowing what to wear. Here are key guidelines for Western guests:

❌ Avoid All-White Outfits: White is traditionally associated with mourning in Indian culture. Though, this is changing for weddings as Indians adopt some trends from the West. You’ll sometimes see Indian brides in white now.

I broke tradition and opted for an ivory outfit as a bride for our Indian Wedding ceremony. If you have a white outfit as a guest, ensure there are splashes of color. Also, confirm with the bride what color she is wearing so you don’t accidentally dress alike.

❌ All-Black Ensembles: You should consider black too somber for such joyous occasions. As a New Yorker, I’m used to black being acceptable at any type of formal event, but I recommend staying away from it at Indian weddings.

❌ All-Red Attire at the Ceremony: This color is traditionally reserved for the bride. This may be okay if the bride isn’t planning on wearing red – just check with the bride first!

❌ Don’t Wear Overly Casual Attire: No jeans, t-shirts, or casual sundresses

❌ Minimal Accessories: Indian weddings call for statement jewelry

❌ Lots of Solid, Muted Colors: Too understated for Indian celebrations. As a neutral lover myself, this was challenging for me.

TLDR: What To Wear To An Indian Wedding As A Non Indian Guest

Indian weddings are joyous celebrations filled with color, music, and rituals. Wearing traditional outfits is a fun way to show respect for the culture and look fabulous while doing it.

If you’re going for formal, usually a lehenga is a safe choice for a woman and a Jodhpuri suit or kurta-pyjama with Nehru jacket is classy for a man. And remember not to shy away from accessories and color! Most of all, have fun with your outfit!